Why You Don’t Do What You Know You Should
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:50 The marshmallow test, debunked
06:06 How traits become habits
12:19 The layers of adaptation
20:44 Identity as your deepest adaptation
28:16 Why adaptations resist change
39:55 Off the rails with Drew
50:20 Why change happens in relationships
54:03 The 5 stages of change
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