想拒絕,又怕得罪人?|別把對方滿意,當成做決定的前提【一天聽一點261110】
同事借了你的錢,過了約定的日期還沒還,你卻怕一開口,他會覺得你小氣。客戶拖著尾款,又請你先做下一個案子,你擔心拒絕之後,連合作機會都沒了。錢是對方沒付,怎麼最後反而是你不好意思?
你一問還款日期,同事就說:「我們這種交情,你還怕我不還嗎?」你忙著解釋自己不是不相信他,講了半天,還是不知道他哪一天會還錢。
你想拿回自己的錢,卻先要求自己不能讓對方不高興;你想拒絕不合理的要求,又希望對方覺得你好相處。當「對方滿意」變成每個決定的前提,他只要表現得不高興,你就可能改口:「沒關係,你不用急。」
這一集《一天聽一點》,我從同事借錢、客戶欠款的例子,陪你把「怕得罪人」說清楚。你怕的是見面尷尬,還是對方不配合工作?你願意多等多久、再幫多少?不同的擔心,需要不同的安排。
你繼續替客戶墊錢、安排員工做事,換到一句「還是你好配合」,這句稱讚會不會太貴?拒絕可能失去生意,繼續答應,也可能讓公司收不到錢,卻得照常付薪水。
決定要小,策略要大。你不必一口氣決定要不要翻臉,可以先談清楚還款日期、付款條件與下一個案子的安排。這集會談,如何把還款日期問清楚、算出繼續合作要付出的錢與時間,也替對方不願配合的情況做好準備。
如果你經常因為對方一句「你怎麼這麼計較」,就放棄原本的要求,邀請你一起聽聽:除了忍耐或翻臉,你還能怎麼做?
你可以在乎別人的感受,但不需要等別人同意,才開始認真對待自己的需要。
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