怕別人不高興,你就很難替自己做決定|有些選擇,本來就會讓人不舒服【一天聽一點260909】

明明知道有些話該說清楚,可是一想到對方可能失望、生氣,你就決定再等等。等到最後,事情沒有解決,自己的需要也被擱在一旁。

很多時候,我們遲遲不敢行動,是希望找到一種誰都不會難受的做法。但溝通技巧再好,也沒辦法把績效面談講成生日祝福。有些選擇,本來就會讓人不舒服。

如果對方一不高興,你就改變決定,久了,誰的情緒最大,誰便取得最後的決定權。我們有責任減少不必要的傷害,卻沒有責任消除所有的不舒服。

這集《一天聽一點》,我想從沉沒成本與結果偏誤,談談我們如何在關係裡失去判斷:因為過去付出太多,繼續拿未來替過去買單;因為對方生氣,就認定自己做錯;因為退讓換來平靜,便忽略長期委屈的代價。

關係辛苦,不必立刻導向離開。真正值得問的是:這段關係今天還有沒有值得繼續的理由?如果留下來只是為了證明過去沒白費,未來又要付出多少?

決定與策略,也需要分清楚。決定處理的是我在乎什麼、願意承擔什麼;策略處理的是怎麼表達、何時行動,以及情況改變時如何調整。

有策略,卻不敢下定決心,叫做內耗。當你能理解對方的失望,也容許自己承受失落,界線才有機會從心裡的想法,成為真正做得到的選擇。

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【講座資訊】《溝通,和你想的不一樣》台中場
日期:2026/10/03 (六) 下午14:00-15:30
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【實體課程】《人際回應力-看懂情緒,輕鬆對談》台中場
上課日期:10 /31 (六)、11 /07 (六) 、11 /08 (日) (共2.5天實體課程)
課程地點:WensCo文心會議室-松竹館
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上課日期:12 /12 (六) 、12 /19 (六) (2個週六,共2天實體課程)
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